Simple Things to be Grateful Everyday

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdwVCralPQGymsQXJqH_lYwReOvxfyo7OQi1n5-H05L2OKfFEWqGtEYnrfwmkP3qxREqyyH6mb5OKj1i6OzUG5ba50-uwjbFfWUp-mMbtlG7POZYRrv8burWbQJtaoJHX6ZBb-MaGspYrV/s1600/Grateful.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-size: large;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdwVCralPQGymsQXJqH_lYwReOvxfyo7OQi1n5-H05L2OKfFEWqGtEYnrfwmkP3qxREqyyH6mb5OKj1i6OzUG5ba50-uwjbFfWUp-mMbtlG7POZYRrv8burWbQJtaoJHX6ZBb-MaGspYrV/s320/Grateful.jpg" width="320" /></span></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span> </span><br /> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Things to Be Grateful For Everyday<o:p></o:p></span></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Feel that why am I a bad luck person? Why others are happier than me? That minds trap you in the circle of unhappiness. So is it really we are bad luck? Is it really others are happier?<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Happy or sad is not depend on what happen at the outside, but it always come out from inside our mind.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">To be happy is simple. The key always is TO BE GRATEFUL.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">There are so much much things to be grateful for. And many of them are ordinary things that always happen to us every day. We always neglect them which actually are worth to be grateful for.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Here are some ordinary things to be grateful for every day. Once you really feel grateful for them, your life would be beautiful. Because it’s the ordinary things that make life extraordinary.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .25in;"> </div> <ol> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Wake up. You’re alive.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Breathing Fresh Air for free. Imagine if you need to buy a fresh air to breath.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">A long, hot shower or bath. Ahhh, feel the relaxation.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Making the subway just before the doors close. Success!</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">When the bus driver sees you running and waits 10 extra seconds to let you on.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Your morning coffee. A cup of joy has outstanding health benefits. Not to mention, it’s a good excuse to catch up with your colleagues before your day begins.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">When someone sees your hands are full and opens the door for you. Don’t underestimate the power of a small gesture. </span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">The moment when your food comes at a restaurant. Drool.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">When your favorite song comes on the radio. It will change your mood.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Not setting an alarm on a weekend. You have few more hours to sleep.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">When your dog is so happy to see you. You’re loved.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Office-provided snacks. There’s nothing wrong with loving free food.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Alone time. At times it can feel less precious than it truly is. </span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Comfortable shoes. It’s like walking on a pillow.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Being single. Think of how much independence you have. You are not defined by your relationship status.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Your Parents. They gave you life.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Your other half. It doesn’t matter if it’s a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or just an awesome partner in crime. </span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Sharing a smile with a stranger. You’re friendly.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Being outdoors. Fresh air and sunshine — what’s not to like?</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Long weekends. The second best thing next to long weekends? Four-day workweeks.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">The feeling you get after a long run. You got a healthy body.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Having the bed all to yourself. You can basically drool, sleep diagonally, toss and turn or do whatever you want.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">The cold side of the pillow. There’s something oddly satisfying about it.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">The moment when you can’t control your laughter. A crazy things happen in your life.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">A good cry. Research shows letting out your emotions can make you feel better than before you even got upset in the first place.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Opening a present. The fact that someone took the time to put thought into giving you something is a gift in itself.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Lunch time. Taking a break from your desk will help improve your productivity. </span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">When a package has bubble wrap. It doesn’t matter if you’re 5, 45 or 85, bubble wrap is a universally joyful product. Pop, pop.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">That feeling you get when you fix something. It doesn’t matter if it’s a pipe in the house or a knot in a necklace, it’s still an accomplishment.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Yourself. You deserve all the happiness and kindness in the world — don’t forget it.</span></span></li> </ol> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <div class="MsoNormal"> <br /></div>

Simple Things to be Grateful Everyday

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Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKnlgl0ilhjW6JFlw52LuBnj5IaneTFXqUn13Beya06JoGwzYbfXbPPz0p98s2GPFyl9z8jL6DQQ23WCHvuBsgq5BenVZJFLzFj5Qo2u6LkK1xvI6sClurgG8J_qtxDDH46HnjS_VFT5uo/s1600/Angry.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKnlgl0ilhjW6JFlw52LuBnj5IaneTFXqUn13Beya06JoGwzYbfXbPPz0p98s2GPFyl9z8jL6DQQ23WCHvuBsgq5BenVZJFLzFj5Qo2u6LkK1xvI6sClurgG8J_qtxDDH46HnjS_VFT5uo/s320/Angry.jpg" width="320" /></span></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span> </span><br /> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><span style="line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Control Your Anger Before It Controls You<o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse). And when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">There is a story about a father who cannot control his anger:<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="background: #FDE9D9; mso-background-themecolor: accent6; mso-background-themetint: 51;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="background: #FDE9D9; mso-background-themecolor: accent6; mso-background-themetint: 51;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">This is a true story that happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his 3-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint. </span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="background: #FDE9D9; mso-background-themecolor: accent6; mso-background-themetint: 51;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"> <br /> The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's hands into a pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.<br /> <br /> When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently asked, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck, but when are my fingers going to grow back?"<br /> <br /> The father went home and committed suicide. <o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="background: #FDE9D9; mso-background-themecolor: accent6; mso-background-themetint: 51;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Think about the story the next time before you express your anger. It may only get a minute to get angry, but it also may make you regret until the rest of your life.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">There are some tips how to control your anger.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">RELAXATION<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Some simple steps you can try:<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"> </div> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-indent: -0.25in;">Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-indent: -0.25in;">Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-indent: -0.25in;">Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-indent: -0.25in;">Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.</span></li> </ul> <!--[if !supportLists]--><br /> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">CHANGING THE WAY YOU THINK<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Try replacing the exaggerated and overly dramatic thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Be careful of words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or someone else. "This !&*%@ machine never works," or "you're always forgetting things" are not just inaccurate, they also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there's no way to solve the problem. <o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">PROBLEM SOLVING<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Remember getting angry is not going to fix anything. So instead of putting an anger, save your energy to think how to solve the problem. <o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">BETTER COMMUNICATION<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">When you start to get angry, hold yourself, don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">After arranging the words, start your conversation calmly. It will go to a better solution rather than only win your arguments.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">USING HUMOR<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">"Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like. <o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">If you're at work and you think of a coworker as a "dirtbag" or a "single-cell life form," for example, picture a large bag full of dirt (or an amoeba) sitting at your colleague's desk, talking on the phone, going to meetings. Do this whenever a name comes into your head about another person. If you can, draw a picture of what the actual thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off your fury; and humor can always be relied on to help unknot a tense situation.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <br /></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">CHANGING YOUR ENVIRONMENT<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes "nobody talks to Mom unless the house is on fire." After this brief quiet time, she feels better prepared to handle demands from her kids without blowing up at them.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><br /></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <b><u><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;">SOME OTHER TIPS FOR EASING UP ON YOURSELF<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b><br /></b></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b>Timing</b>: If you and your spouse tend to fight when you discuss things at night—perhaps you're tired, or distracted, or maybe it's just habit—try changing the times when you talk about important matters so these talks don't turn into arguments.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b><br /></b></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b>Avoidance</b>: If your child's chaotic room makes you furious every time you walk by it, shut the door. Don't make yourself look at what infuriates you. Don't say, "well, my child should clean up the room so I won't have to be angry!" That's not the point. The point is to keep yourself calm.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b><br /></b></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;"><b>Finding alternatives</b>: If your daily commute through traffic leaves you in a state of rage and frustration, give yourself a project—learn or map out a different route, one that's less congested or more scenic. Or find another alternative, such as a bus or commuter train.<o:p></o:p></span></div> <br /> <div class="MsoNormal"> <br /></div>

Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

Control Your Anger Before It Controls You Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But getting angry is not go...

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